We are all humans and that means we all will face all kinds of tests and trials everyday in our life. All of our life are stressful and full with obstacles, only those who belong to Hospital Bahagia (a well known institution for those nutty people) have a stress free life.

Nobody can run from getting hit by multiple storms in our life, that is for sure.

It is normal for us to face disappointment, for us to lose something or someone, for us to be looked down, for us to be alone, for us to be misunderstood at some point in our life.

All these are a part of life, helping to shape and mould us into becoming a better person, equipping ourselves to help others in life and to Christians, a better person to serve God.

So do not fret or worry when there's a major breakdown in your life, it is normal.

What sets us all apart are not what kind of problems we're facing, but indeed how we choose to deal and solve the trials in our life, the attitude we use.

Do we choose to run? Or to stand in spite of everything?

Do we adopt a negative thinking? One with low self esteem? Or do we choose to remain positive, trusting God for his wisdom, not bowing down to pressure? Keeping a smile no matter what?

The way we choose to deal with pressure affects how things will turn out eventually.

As for me, i'm the person who takes the choice of being positive, viewing every test in life as something good.

Although some might tear me apart, i choose to believe, to believe that there's a positive outcome from the problem.

I search for lessons among the disappointment or sadness in my life and adaopting a thankful attitude, thankful for a chance to see how good i can fare in life.

Instead of moping around, questioning God, i move on. Yes, some might might be hurting but nothing can be gained by just wasting tears on something that cannot be changed. Mourn, and move on. Take the experience as a sweet dream, a dream that once we wake up from, cannot be returned to.

That is how i deal with problems thrown at me in life and i assure you, keeping a positive attitude, keeping cheerful and optimistic can really help to minimise and even eliminate the impact done from trials in life. Besides that, it is also advisable to get some hope from above. It really can help. Believe me.

If we are optimistic and positive in life, of course our life would be filled with more joy and smiles.

But if we are negative and pessimistic, sure our life would be all time low every time. Think about it.

Life is what we want it to be!!!

One thing i'm definitely certain about life is that it is never short of trials and obstacles to overcome.
Like they say, life is something like a test, and everywhere you turn there's a nother storm for you to brave, another mountain to climb.

This had been particularly true for me. In fact, too true.

Since the day i started form 6, life had been an uphill climb all the way.

Let me see, there's the gangster problem, the top 5 prefects problem, my jie's problem and now, sigh, more BIG problems.

Well, i learned that God is indeed very funny at doing things.
It is as if that with every trials i need to face, He's telling me,
"Hey what about that? You thought things would have gone this way but nope, i think things should be better done like this."
Learned that often, we mistaken our desires for God's will, and ended up expecting for things to happen the way it should not be at the first place.

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Just recently, the biggest problem, for now, finally fell on my head. And wow, it was painful.
You see, there was this girl that i really love so much in the sense that i wanted to share my life with her but i really did not harbour any hope of winning her heart as she is popular, pretty and did not fall for guys easily.
The good girl type or some sort like that.

To my amazement, she too has feeling like that and we, hmm can be counted as started the relation already. Too bad that 1 week, 1 WEEK into the relation, she bailed out.

As much as the pain hurts me, i really can't do anything more except to accept it.
At least this relation taught me a lot of lessons in spite of all the pain.
Among the pieces of my heart i learnt to understand those who are in love, learnt that life often do not turns out the way we wnat to and learnt that true love is indeed hard to find.

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To add the the tough problems i am already facing, just yesterday i heard from trusted friends that one of my so called best friend backstabbed me.

At first, i choosed not to believe but as more and more i asked, there's no doubt that person really had done that action.
Well, what can i do?

It is a sad fact that backstabbers exist in this world. Pretending to be caring in front of you but as soon as you turn your back, they are smiling gleefully over the mistakes and problems you have to face.

No wonder i could not stop sneezing these few days.

Sigh, one thing i'm certain is true friend is really hard to find. There are backstabbers and there are hypocrites.
But like one my my friend put it, these people are only jealous of you and thats why they want to bring you down.
Except if you really got face problems then thats a different story.

Well, guess i have to be wary of this so called best friend next time. Even now, many people are also against this person's backstabbing attitude already.

At least that's a good thing because it shows that i'm not haveing face problems.

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Sigh i gotta take my leave now, hope when next time i'm writing another post, life would have taken the turn to be better.

"Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and you will cry alone."

Proverbs, ah, never a better way to sometimes summarise your stormy feelings deep down inside.

Friends, how many of us can really find true friends that would really cry by your side during hardships and trials?
Very few indeed.

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Often in life, the path we walk in life will always criss-crossed with other people's and those whom path we crossed will sometimes become our friend.

But the fact is, most of the time very few will become our true friends and the ones we treat as true friends do not treat us the same in return.


Whom do we consider as true friends when touching on this topic?
Most of the time, we would look for friends matching our requirements such as being popular, know sense of humour, the list goes on.

Sometimes, without realising, we put ourselves above our friends, considering ourselves too good for them and treating them as if they were from a lower social class.
And in this situation, we would look down on them and eventually becoming selfish and like to show off in front of them.


But do you know that the instant we put ourselves above our friends, the relationship would not be called friendship anymore, it would better be off as nothing.

What does friendship mean? It means that everyone is equal and no one is above another, even though one might be more successful in life compared to the other one or others.
When we start thinking that we are superior than our friends in life, our friends would not look at us in awe but in fact in disgust.

Why?
Imagine, someone who you treat as friend, keeps of showing off in front of you, maybe in money or girlfriend/boyfriend, how would you feel?
Inferior right somettimes? And sometimes downright annoying.
Yea you got a gf, so what?
Especially if your friends do that on purpose we would often feel that they do not respect us.


Today in church i attended a class about this, so i choose to write to about this.

In the class we were shown a picture, a guy in cactus costume chasing after someone shouting, "I want to to be my friend!"
The girl in the picture kept running and did not care about that guy.

My teacher explained the picture, the girl was running because if dat guy hugged the girl, wouldn't she be hurt?
The same goes for life.

Often we would want someone to be our friends but the other someone does not seem to think the same. Because when our attitude got a lot of thorns, how do you expect someone to aceept us when they will get hurt?


So when next time you feel like nobody is liking you, try reaccessing youself.
Are your attitude filled with thorns? Or are you treating the relation wrongly? Treating your "friends" as they were from a lower class people and looking down on them?

Friendship means unconditional acceptance, accepting someone without caring how and what the person is, and after that, treating them equally without looking down on them.
An Indian saying goes, if you to accept someone or to be someone's friend, first you must put yourself in their shoe.